Navigating Difficult Conversations

Worksheet Description

The DEARMAN worksheet is a structured guide based on Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), designed to help students communicate effectively, especially in challenging situations. DEARMAN stands for Describe, Express, Assert, Reinforce, Mindfulness, Appear confident, and Negotiate. The worksheet provides a step-by-step framework that teaches students how to articulate a problem clearly and assertively, express emotions appropriately, and work toward a positive outcome in a conversation. It’s a communication model that emphasizes the importance of being direct, clear, and respectful when conveying personal needs and desires.

Using this worksheet, students learn to describe the issue at hand objectively, without the influence of emotional bias. They practice expressing their feelings with “I” statements that focus on personal experience rather than assigning blame. Students are encouraged to assert their needs calmly and to reinforce positive interactions by expressing gratitude when others respond well. Mindfulness is emphasized to help students maintain focus and avoid getting sidetracked, while appearing confident is about using body language to project self-assurance. Finally, students consider the art of negotiation, learning to find solutions that respect everyone’s boundaries. By working through the DEARMAN steps, students can enhance their interpersonal skills and navigate difficult conversations with greater ease and effectiveness.