What Is DEARMAN?

Worksheet Description

The worksheet presents the DEARMAN acronym, a fundamental communication strategy from Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT). DEARMAN is designed to guide students in effective communication by providing a clear structure for expressing their needs and desires assertively and respectfully. The acronym stands for Describe, Express, Assert, Reinforce, Mindfulness, Appear confident, and Negotiate. Each component of DEARMAN plays a critical role in facilitating constructive conversation, and the worksheet outlines how to apply each step in the process.

The “Describe” step encourages students to objectively explain the situation, focusing on factual statements. “Express” involves articulating emotions clearly, using “I” statements to own their feelings. “Assert” is about stating needs and wants directly, while “Reinforce” involves acknowledging positive responses from others. “Mindfulness” focuses on keeping the conversation goal-oriented, “Appear confident” emphasizes the use of confident body language, and “Negotiate” highlights the importance of flexibility and finding mutually agreeable solutions. Through practicing DEARMAN, students can enhance their communication skills, leading to more effective interactions and better relationships. The worksheet serves as a practical guide for students to reference when preparing for important discussions, ensuring they approach these situations with a strategy that fosters clarity, respect, and cooperation.